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The Dark Truth of Human Nature: Comparative Self-Love Is Corrupting Us On Social Media

The widespread use of social media in this digital age has undeniably brought about new advantages as well as new challenges as social norms have been redefined to account for this new, integral part of human society. The ease of connectivity helped people who were isolated during the pandemic to stay connected with people they couldn’t physically meet.

“Social media has played a vital role in combating loneliness and anxiety, which we know have crept up during the outbreak.”

Katie Gilsenan

We have also seen social platforms serve as a virtual learning tool to help carry out non-physical classes and lectures. Digital solidarity across the globe has also helped spread awareness on the #BlackLivesMatter movement during trying times. However, despite its benefits, we can draw parallels with Rousseau’s conception of the corruption of man in civil society and social media’s corruption of man.

Rousseau on Human Nature and Social Media

To briefly explain Rousseau’s argument, Rousseau argues that man in the natural state is solitary. Man is devoid of interaction, independent and only possesses what Rousseau calls Amour de Soi Meme. Amour de Soi Meme in its simplicity, is self-preservation, and so, in our natural state there is no need for interaction.

As we enter society, Rousseau argues that a new unnatural property, Amour Propre which is self-love, comes into play. Man begins to interact with others and starts forming dependencies, disrupting the independence of man in the natural state.

The comparative aspect of Amour Propre entices men to make comparisons amongst themselves, and leads to their desire to be valued in the eyes of others. This dependency creates inequalities to Rousseau, as the weak become the subordinate, and the strong become the superior.

Our Self-Love Nature Causes Us Harm on Social Media

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On an individual level, social media serves as an easily accessible platform for users to compare and contrasts themselves with others.

With information and data being so readily available within a few clicks, man is now more able than ever to be engrossed in comparisons and we can see how this heightens their desire to be valued highly in the eyes of others. In order to do so, users use social media as a platform to promote material wealth and lifestyles in the name of improving their social standings.

At the end of the day, the projection and construction of this online avatarism becomes a misrepresentation of the self, and whilst this may seem harmless at first glance, the effects of this stretch out to others as well.

Other users viewing the profile of someone seemingly perfect may end up doubting their self-worth and this has serious implications on mental health. This desire to be perceived not only in a positive manner, but in a superior manner relative to others exacerbates existing non-digital inequalities.

The nature of social media in itself has transformed vastly throughout the decade, starting off as a platform to connect and interact with others, MySpace being one of the pioneers.

Surveillance Capitalism and Data Mining Further Amplifies the Problem

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Although on surface level, the platforms that exist now still focus on connecting people, a lot of what we see is focused on the exploitation and manipulation of its users, in the name of corporations making financial gains through surveillance capitalism and data mining.

Social media has transformed into a marketplace whereby users’ data has become the product, and corporations buy such data to personalise marketing strategies in order to boost profits.

“Its success depends upon one-way-mirror operations engineered for our ignorance and wrapped in a fog of misdirection, euphemism and mendacity.”

Shoshana Zuboff, The New York Times

Surveillance capitalism and data mining only amplifies the problems discussed earlier, as already glory-seeking individuals are fed with ads and profiles of people like them, causing them to want to be more like someone else.

Users are fed with ads of products that aim to tackle the biggest insecurities through the platform’s algorithm based on recent searches, engagements and shares. Such only promotes man to want to further deviate away from their true self and for Rousseau, the desire to be someone you are not ultimately leads to man’s corruption.

Different Aspects of Amour Propre or Self-Love

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It is important to distinguish the different aspects of Amour Propre, and although Rousseau himself doesn’t clearly do so, readings of his other works, Emile (On Education) and The Social Contract, suggest so. Amour Propre, like many other properties, isn’t necessarily bad. Amour Propre (self-love) is relatively harmless when it isn’t relative to others, making it egalitarian.

The problem arises when it is relative and comparative, and this is often called inegalitarian Amour Propre.

Similarly, social media isn’t necessarily bad. As we have seen above, there are both positive and negative aspects to it.

However, consistent with Rousseau’s argument that Amour Propre is the main cause of man’s corruption, we see that the negative aspects of social media are due to inegalitarian Amour Propre as the problems discussed earlier were all attributed to comparisons and relativity with others. 

Practical Steps to Protect Yourself from the Psychological Harms of Social Media

Ultimately, our next practical step would be to address the problems that stem from inegalitarian Amour Propre.

In summary, we see that Rousseau’s account of the corruption of man entering civil society is almost perfectly exemplified by the emergence of social media, and as users ourselves, we must be aware of the psychological harms it can cause. We have seen that social media can be utilised in a positive and empowering way and we must strive towards this exact use. Educating users on what exactly they are getting into when using social media is extremely important, even more so for the younger users of social media as well as education on online etiquette and ways to ensure personal security and protection. 

To end this, below are some precautionary steps and countermeasures to protect oneself from the harms of social media set forth in the drama-documentary “The Social Dilemma” (2020):

  1. Turn off notifications or reduce the number of notifications you receive
  2. Uninstall social media and news apps that are wasting time
  3. Use a search engine that doesn’t store search history, like Qwant
  4. Use browser extensions to block recommendations
  5. Fact-check before sharing, liking, or commenting when the information looks surprising
  6. Obtain sources of information with different perspectives, including sources one might disagree with
  7. Never accept recommended videos on YouTube, Facebook or anywhere
  8. Try to avoid any clickbait material
  9. Keep devices out of the bedroom after a certain time
  10. Do not allow social media use until children reach high school