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Living on Autopilot: Milk or Cereal First?

Subway Surfers is a popular childhood game which involves simple rules of jumping up, rolling down, swiping left or right, or choosing boosters/headstarts to advance further in the game. When you crash, you can save yourself with diamonds or watch a 30-second advertisement to keep the game going.  

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Okay, maybe you don’t play games. But surely you eat breakfast? 

So, let’s say you have cereal for breakfast. Do you put milk into the bowl first or do you add cereal in first? Perhaps adding milk first would cause the cereal to get soggy later or maybe inedible, yet adding cereal first may make you too full. Does adding milk first make the cereal less favorable or maybe it just doesn’t matter? 

Ok maybe you don’t eat cereal. But at least you do brush your teeth?

When you brush your teeth, do you pay attention to which hand you use to brush your teeth, and have you ever tried to brush your teeth with the less dominant hand? Most of us wouldn’t bother changing the hand we use to brush our teeth because first of all, it is more challenging to use your less dominant hand, simply because you’re not used to it. And… it’s early morning, why would you even care to which hand you use as long as you get the job done?

What is Living on Autopilot?

Busy streets with people walking and living life on autopilot
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Our lives consist of many daily habits and routines. They shape how our days go and they fulfill our necessities – taking care of our hygiene, eating, working, exercising and so on. Yet, have you ever wondered the multitude of actions we undertake without conscious consideration in our daily lives? Do we pause to contemplate or reflect upon the reasons behind our daily routines?

Autopilot is a ‘system used to control the path of air, marine or space craft without requiring constant control by a human operator’. Similarly, for our daily activities, being on autopilot involves “zoning out” – losing focus yet being able to continue doing something without “really thinking”.

Being on autopilot isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

For instance, autopilot can be a great tool for maintaining discipline when used in the right way. Many of our New Year’s resolutions, such as weight management, overcoming addictive habits, or learning a new language, often falter due to a mixture of emotions and goals. By operating on autopilot, we can perform them without “really thinking”, and in doing so, we can focus solely on the task at hand, and we may even achieve our resolutions.

Whenever we have a thought, it typically triggers an associated emotion, and vice versa—when we experience emotions, we often contemplate what to do about them. Being on autopilot circumvents this cycle of thought-emotion interaction, minimising “overthinking” and spending more time actually doing.

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However, some may argue that it doesn’t truly constitute living one’s life; instead, it’s akin to mere existence. Habits and routines are inherent to the human mind; they are regular practices that evolve over time and are often triggered by other actions.

For instance, everyone has different morning routines. Some prefers showering immediately after they wake up in the morning, some may make their bed first, and some prefer heading for their first cup of coffee before starting their day. The point here is that we are predisposed to engage in certain actions—whilst most of the time this tendency serves us well, are we always aware of what it is that we are doing?

Being conscious of what you do daily is a big part of being on autopilot, because in our daily lives, we are used to the habits we take on, but may not always think why we do it or how we do it. 

How to Know that I Am Autopiloting?

Here are a few ways you might be on autopilot without even you knowing and why you should try to get out of it. 

1. You may be Reacting instead of Responding. 

Being on autopilot would cause you to react instead of responding. It’s pretty easy to confuse these two actions as both of them are based on your individualities. But being aware of them may benefit you in order to think critically and deeply about your daily habits. 

ReactingResponding
Instinctive and reflexive Thoughtful processing
ImmediateTakes time
Emotional, flight or fight systemRational, reasoning faculty

Example of Reacting

When a driver in front of you cuts you, the first reaction may be to “react” angrily or honk. When you start to head home from work during the usual rush hour, your mind may immediately get into a negative mode for you to get used to the long wait of the jam. This is a reaction and it is to prepare you mentally for the upcoming situations you may not want to experience. 

Example of Responding

If a driver cuts you over, you simply give it some time before you see what you should do next. Taking some time to calm down and not react immediately. Responding takes time and deliberation which breaks the autopilot mode you are in, because you’re absorbing the information that you have at the moment instead of reacting for the sake of it.  

2. Your Brain is Idle

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Our daily routines are based on functions. If A happens, I do B. If A doesn’t happen, I do C. And these routined functions are predictable and they keep the brain idle.

The COVID-19 pandemic created an abundance of idle and repetitive habits, as many of us transitioned to remote work and experienced limited exposure to the outside world and its unpredictable interactions. A typical day might involve waking up, having breakfast, perusing the news, completing online work tasks, and then retiring for the night. 

The way to break brain idleness is by switching up minimal habits, such as trying to cook yourself breakfast or waking up an hour earlier. One small change leads to a big impact. Who knows - maybe trying to cook your own breakfast in the morning may spark an interest in culinary, and waking up an hour earlier may motivate you to get involved in a new sport or diving into a new book. Even things as small as brushing your teeth with your less dominant hand may spark new findings. 

3. You are Desensitised

Desensitization occurs when constant exposure to something diminishes the impact of our emotions or feelings towards it. This leads to normalization, where we become less reactive because we’ve grown accustomed to the emotion or stimulus.

Consider this:

Whenever you watch stand-up comedy or any type of show, do you ever question why you enjoy it so much or find out what really makes you laugh at the jokes? Or are we simply mindlessly absorbing the entertainment because it makes us feel happy? One may argue that hormones such as dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins are all released when we engage in activities we enjoy, causing our brain goes to autopilot to focus on the enjoyment. But perhaps we simply choose not to think as it requires too much effort. Why bother thinking when you can just laugh and have fun, right?

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Yet, overconsumption or repetitive absorption of media without questioning can lead us to normalisation. Just like when you first watch shows with violence, it may provoke a sense of pity, disgust and anger, but as you begin to watch it daily, you become indifferent because your mind is so used to it. Similarly, with comedy–where racist and sexist banters are brought up most of the time–do we ever question why we find such jokes amusing?


What Can We Do about Our Autopilot Tendencies?

1. Put Your Autopilot Tendency to Good Use

Autopilot mode is activated through repetition and consistency, similar to how habits are created. You can redirect your autopilot tendency to for goals-planning and execution.

Think about some of the goals or new year resolutions that you may or may not have achieved over the years… losing weight? Trying a new hobby? Learning a new skill?

Autopilot for goal-setting

The first step is to write them down so that you know what you want to focus on. The next step is to build consistency and repetition. Start small and let your body get used to it before increasing the difficulty.

So, for instance, your goal is to run at least 2.5km everyday for a week. As you consistently achieve this target, it gradually becomes easier and your body adapts to the routine. Once 2.5km becomes manageable, you can consider increasing the distance or incorporating different types of workouts to challenge yourself further.

Over time, your body becomes accustomed to the routine, and you may find yourself naturally yearning for a workout in the afternoon or at whichever time you’ve established as your exercise period, as your body becomes attuned to the positive sensations associated with physical activity at that specific time.

2. Stimulates Deep Work and Overcomes Procrastination with Autopilot Habits

Procrastination is a problem many of us face because we spend a lot of time think about doing the work rather than actually doing the work itself. Being on autopilot eliminates that process and can actually help with overcoming procrastination. How so?

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Firstly, creating a familiar environment is essential to enter the autopilot state of mind. This could be done through establishing routines over time and by engaging our senses such as smell, taste, and location.

For instance, the next time need to get into this “deep work” state, you can light a certain scented candle or drink a cup of tea. Additionally, you can also you can dedicate an area where you only do “work” and nothing else. This helps train your brain to associate that location solely with focused productivity, eliminating distractions like watching funny cat videos or memes.

The key to entering “deep work” is to simply not think too much and “just do.” Whilst thinking is good, we don’t want to overthink our daily tasks, especially non-negotiable ones such as exercising, completing work tasks, and consuming a balanced diet.


Living Life on Autopilot vs Living Mindfully

So… does life have to always be efficient? 

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The short answer is “nope”.

It’s important to strike a balance and not rely solely on autopilot in life. While it can be beneficial for productivity, too much reliance on autopilot may lead to a lack of spontaneity and creativity in our lives.

Try contemplating and reflecting on your actions, beliefs, and values from time to time, and question information you receive to embrace a more conscious, intentional living. Take a step back and take things slow when life gets a bit too busy and over-productive.

Efficiency itself is a social construct. Efficiency itself is a social construct. We strive to be ‘efficient’ or ‘productive’ because we have tasks to accomplish, which often leads us to sacrifice our time and energy in service to society.

However, this drive for efficiency can distance us from connecting with ourselves and developing meaningful friendships and relationships. Sometimes, we can have days where we simply just ‘blank out’ and do absolutely nothing—ahem, Sundays—and that’s perfectly acceptable.

Our minds are essential tools for navigating daily routines, and giving them a break can go a long way.

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Slow Is the New Cool: Why You Need to Embrace Slow Living

Addicted by Speed: The Fast Living Syndrome

Why does society detest slowness and the concept of slow living? Why is speed considered attractive, while slowness is not similarly embraced?

Let us be honest, we have all been culpable of at least one of these: getting frustrated over sluggish internet speeds or delayed deliveries from Lazada or Shopee, grumbling about the dreadful traffic during rush hours, turning to instant noodles because of a busy workday, and maybe the most outrageous of all, binge-watching Netflix at double speed because we are too busy for entertainment but refuse to compromise on leisure time.

Working adult looking at time, rushing work

These behaviours are symptoms of the “fast living syndrome”. Many of us unknowingly suffer from “time sickness”, a term coined by physician and writer Larry Dossey, which is the pervasive belief that time is constantly slipping away and perpetually insufficient.

Why do we always find ourselves in a perpetual rush? Is living at a breakneck pace the way to go? While it is undeniable that a fast-paced lifestyle can yield various advantages, such as increased efficiency, personal growth and a heightened sense of accomplishment, distressing trends are emerging.

These include children as young as 5 grappling with stress-related conditions including insomnia and eating disorders, and a drastic decline of average human attention span. Additionally, one in three Malaysians suffer from mental health issues, and over half of Malaysian workers are wrestling with burnout. These trends suggest that it is time for us to re-evaluate the significance we have attributed to living life in the fast lane.

How Did We Become Obsessed With Speed?

How did our appetite for speed and aversion to slowness evolve? This question has ties to the party in power. In ancient Greek and Roman cultures, leisure held a place of great reverence, serving as a window for the flourishing of intellectual, cultural and philosophical pursuits. The tables turned in the era of industrial capitalism. Under the rule of the bourgeoisie, we witnessed a significant shift in power dynamics. This period strongly emphasised individualism, hard work and productivity, all to the advantage of the powerful.

In contemporary society, the control and regulation that were formerly imposed by capitalist forces were internalised. As a consequence, a new form of power that operates through the mechanisms of self-control and self-optimisation came to the fore as noted by Byung-Chul Han in his book Burnout Society.

Thus, the achievement-subject gives itself over to compulsive freedom—that is, to the free constraint of maximizing achievement. Excess work and performance escalate into auto-exploitation. This is more efficient than allo-exploitation, for the feeling of freedom attends it. The exploiter is simultaneously the exploited. Perpetrator and victim can no longer be distinguished.

Byung-Chul Han, The Burnout Society

We now live in a world where we are both the master and slave to ourselves. The dichotomy that extols fast living and relentless productivity as virtues while stigmatising slow living and leisure as vices is deeply entrenched in our society that it has become synonymous with the truth.

The Consequences of Fast Living

However, as we rush through life, striving to achieve our life, career and relationship goals by a certain age, we often spread ourselves too thin, leaving little time for friends and family. We seek quick intimacy with our partners and prefer the most time-efficient forms of entertainment. Perhaps, the most ironic of all is that we desire the fastest solution to slowing down in life, as author Carl Honore described in In Praise of Slow. 

What Is Slow Living? Is It Any Good?

“Slowness” frequently conjures negative images such as waiting in long queues, bureaucratic inefficiencies and unproductive work processes. It sometimes also carries the negative connotation of societal regression, suggesting a reluctance to embrace modern conveniences.

However, slowing down in life does not mean getting the short end of the stick compared with a fast-paced lifestyle. Slowing down does not entail a return to a non-technological era marked by resistance to change. It also does not require giving up on modern conveniences such as fast food, rapid transportation or instant communication, nor does it imply turning a blind eye to career opportunities.

slow living and enjoying life

What is Slow Living?

Slow living is an intentional and conscious choice to embrace an unhurried and reflective way of life.

It is in Honore’s words, having control of “the rhythms of your own life” or having the say of not only how but when to slow down in life.

“Being Slow means that you control the rhythms of your own life. You decide how fast you have to go in any given context. If today I want to go fast, I go fast; if tomorrow I want to go slow, I go slow. What we are fighting for is the right to determine our own tempos.” 

Carl Honoré, In Praise of Slowness: Challenging the Cult of Speed

In doing so, we grant ourselves the time to recharge and strike a balance in the hyper-accelerated life, consequently leading to greater productivity, improved overall well-being, more prudent decision-making, higher quality of life and relationships, and even a reduced risk of heart disease.

A good starting point is to become less neurotic about time, refraining from multitasking when it is appropriate, such as during meals, while spending quality time with loved ones or while resting, and having the courage to embrace moments of boredom and be comfortable with them.

Persuading Malaysians on the merits of slowing down is merely the start. A transition towards a mentally healthy society that sees the beauty and values of slow living will remain a challenge until we overhaul the regulations that influence nearly every aspect of life, including governance, the economy, the workplace, education, healthcare and others.

Live Love Labour Festival 2023

However, the movement towards a slower, more consciously paced lifestyle is gaining momentum. The Live Love Labour Festival: The Art of Bersantai, Malaysia’s first Festival of Slow Living, which was held recently is a fine example.

Final Thoughts

sloth - symbol of slow living

In a world hurtling forward at a breakneck speed, it is time for us to join the movement advocating for the value of slow living and unleash our inner sloth that has long been suppressed.

Originally published on the commentary section of The Sun Daily on October 24, 2023.

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30 Life-Changing Work-Life Balance Quotes for a Fulfilling Career

In you landed on this article, it means you are probably burnt out, stressed out or exhausted at work. Fret not, you are not alone as more than half Malaysians reported experiencing work-related stress at work according to this survey.

51.5% working Malaysians experience at least one form of work-related stress, and 12% experience high level of mental health issues like depression and anxiety.

Work-life balance has become a sought after commodity in the current burnout society. In this article, we will explain what work-life balance really means, how you can practice it more effectively, as well as offer you 30 work-life balance quotes from philosophers across the centuries.

A man who has achieved work-life balance

Disclaimer: While these quotes aim to assist in alleviating burnout by offering alternative perspectives on work and life, they should not be viewed as the sole remedy for burnout. If you are experiencing high level of stress and burnout, we strongly recommend you to seek professional help.

As our attempt to combat the burnout culture in Malaysia, we encouraged Malaysians to slow down their pace in life and practice a more mindful living at Live Love Labour Festival 2023.

What is Work-Life Balance?

According to the Cambridge Dictionary, is “the amount of time you spend doing your job compared with the amount of time you spend with your family and doing things you enjoy”.

Fun Fact 💡

There exists an implicit assumption that the 40-hour workweek has been the longstanding standard for centuries. We often envision medieval peasants enduring monotonous lives, working tirelessly from sunrise to sunset.

However, this is not the case. During pre-industrial times, humans work as little as 3 hours a day and work was regarded as more of an informal and casual way to kill time and sustain life. Subsequently, work-life balance is a concept that was popularised during early Industrial Revolution period when work began to occupy a disproportionately large portion of the average worker’s day, thereby becoming a concept foreign to and distinct from "life."
Adult man outdoor working in garden

In contemporary society, achieving work-life balance isn’t solely about dividing time equally between work and personal life. Owing to economic pressures, achieving this kind of work-life balance often proves unfeasible. In 2016, the Department of Statistics Malaysia revealed that 83.8% of employees in Malaysia were engaged in working more than 40 hours per week. And as a result of internalising a culture emphasising constant productivity, leisure or the supposed “life” component has often been commodified and transformed into yet another form of productivity, at times relegated to just another task on the schedule rather than serving as a genuine respite from work-induced stress.

We hope the following quotes can inspire you to look beyond the pre-existing notions and practices of work-life balance and empower you to to reimagine alternatives to well-being that integrates work and life harmoniously.


30 Work-Life Balance Quotes by Philosophers Across the Centuries

Work-life balance quotes
  1. “In an achievement-oriented society, freedom does not mean the absence of constraints; rather, it means choosing one’s constraints.” – Byung-Chul Han
  2. “There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.” – Alain de Botton
  3. “It is not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is: what are we busy about?” – Henry David Thoreau
  4. “Our worth is not determined by the amount of work we accomplish.” – Wayne Muller
  5. “The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” – Buddha
  6. “The whole life is but a point of time; let us enjoy it, therefore, while it lasts, and not spend it to no purpose.” – Plutarch
  7. “You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius
  8. “To do two things at once is to do neither.” – Publilius Syrus
  9. “It’s an absolute necessity to recognize the value of work in making sense of life and finding satisfaction in what we do.” – Alain de Botton
  10. “We cannot choose our external circumstances, but we can always choose how we respond to them.” – Epictetus
  11. “We should always allow some time to elapse, for time discloses the truth.” – Seneca
  12. “No man is free who is not a master of himself.” – Epictetus
  13. “The person who has lived the most is not the one who has lived the most years, but the one with the richest experiences.” – Jean-Jacques Rousseau
  14. “Today, one must justify one’s existence through work. One is nothing if one does not function. Laziness is disparaged; activity is glorified.” – Byung-Chul Han
  15. “Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.” – Confucius
  16. “Beware the barrenness of a busy life.” – Socrates 
  17. “Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” – Lao Tzu
  18. “Lost time is never found again.” – Benjamin Franklin
  19. “Genuine leisure is beyond the measure of work. Leisure is time that is spent for itself, for its own sake.” – Byung-Chul Han
  20. “Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.” – Marcus Aurelius
  21. “The time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.” – Bertrand Russell
  22. “Work-life balance is a concept that has led to a vast amount of unnecessary guilt and sense of failure. People who feel they are not working enough, or not spending enough time with their families, can often be found expressing a wish to be someone else.” – Alain de Botton 
  23. “For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  24. “Freedom is the recognition of necessity.” – Friedrich Engels
  25. “It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it.” – Seneca
  26. “Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.” – Hermann Hesse
  27. “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the now the primary focus of your life.” – Eckhart Tolle
  28. “We need to learn how to want what we have, not to have what we want in order to get steady and stable happiness.” – Dalai Lama
  29. “Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” – Søren Kierkegaard
  30. “If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.” – Bruce Lee

Final Thoughts

We hope the above work-life balance quotes can offer you fresh perspectives in finding a better balance between your personal and professional life.

As a gentle reminder to our burnt out readers, before moving on to another task on your to-do list, ask yourself: “Would it be catastrophic if I allowed myself a moment to rest?” The answer is likely a comforting no.

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A Guide to Practicing Mindfulness in Malaysia (Resources Included)

In recent years, there has been a notable shift towards embracing mindfulness in our fast-paced and chaotic world. People are recognizing the power of being present and cultivating self-awareness. By practicing mindfulness, we foster a greater sense of inner calm, enhance our well-being, and cultivate meaningful connections with ourselves and others. 

However, amidst the growing enthusiasm for mindfulness, it is crucial to question whether this trend is merely an escape from the pressures of modern life or an oversimplified solution to our complex inner struggles. Is mindfulness truly the panacea it is often portrayed to be?

In this article, I will compare mindfulness with mind-wandering, which often gets a bad rap in the realm of focus and productivity.


What Exactly is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is the state of conscious awareness and intentional presence in the present moment. Rooted in ancient Eastern philosophies like Buddhism, mindfulness has transcended cultural boundaries and become a widely practiced approach to living in the modern world.

At its core, mindfulness requires one to observe thoughts without judgment or attachment, creating a space for self-reflection and gaining insight into the transient nature of our thoughts. Consequently, this leads us to recognize the value of staying in the present moment

Benefits of Mindfulness

Benefits of Mindfulness

By being fully engaged with the present, individuals gain the following: 

  • Stress reduction: Mindfulness helps lower stress levels and promotes relaxation, leading to improved overall well-being.
  • Improved focus and concentration: Regular mindfulness practice leads to better clarity in our thoughts, enhancing cognitive functions and increasing attention and concentration abilities.
  • Emotional regulation: Mindfulness enables individuals to become more aware of their emotions and develop better emotional regulation.
  • Increased self-awareness: Mindfulness fosters deep self-reflection and understanding, allowing individuals to gain greater insights into their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
  • And of course, perhaps the best among all, better sleep: Mindfulness practice can improve sleep quality by reducing rumination and promoting relaxation.
  • Better relationships: By staying present and aware, we can avoid feeling overwhelmed and incapacitated by the relentless torrent of thoughts. This ultimately transforms our relationship with negative thoughts, ourselves as well as others for the better.


Mindfulness Malaysia Resources

Practicing Mindfulness in Malaysia 

Mental Health Statistics Malaysia
Mindfulness practice holds significant relevance for Malaysians, given that as much as 29.2% of adults were reported to experience mental health problems, according to a report by the Ministry of Health in 2016. It is only reasonable to assume that the current statistics are significantly higher with a series of stress that accompanies the pandemic and economic recession.
Mindfulness Malaysia

However, the good news is, there are plenty of resources for Malaysians to practice mindfulness: 

Mindfulness and Wellness Centers promoting mindful living and mental wellbeingMalaysia Mindfulness AssociationMINDFULGym
Meditation Centers and TemplesMalaysian Buddhist Meditation CenterBodhi Meditation CenterThe Golden Space MalaysiaAppamada Vihari Meditation CenterSasanarakkha Buddhist SanctuaryNandaka Vihara Meditation MonasteryManjushri Kadampa Meditation CenterBodhi Heart SanctuaryPersatuan Brahma Kumaris.
Mindfulness RetreatsKechara Forest Retreat, The Violent Flame
Professional Counsellors or ServicesMalaysia Mental Health Association, The Help Talk, Befrienders, Pantai Hospital
Yoga StudiosNadi TenangNafas YogaOmsphereKarma Yoga
Mindfulness AppsWe recommend Headspace and Calm
Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) ProgramsKindermind Center
Mindfulness Meetup GroupsKuala Lumpur MeditationDestress Yourself With Sweat and Laugh

Books and Reading Materials We Recommend:

Mindfulness Books
  • “The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment” by Eckhart Tolle – This book explores the concept of living in the present moment and the transformative power of mindfulness.
  • “Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life” by Jon Kabat-Zinn – Jon Kabat-Zinn, a pioneer in bringing mindfulness to the West, offers practical insights on integrating mindfulness into daily life.
  • “Mindfulness in Plain English” by Bhante Henepola Gunaratana – This book provides a clear and straightforward introduction to mindfulness meditation from a Buddhist perspective.
  • “Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha” by Tara Brach – Tara Brach combines mindfulness and self-compassion in this book, offering ways to embrace life with greater acceptance and understanding.
  • “The Miracle of Mindfulness: An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation” by Thich Nhat Hanh – Thich Nhat Hanh, a renowned Zen master, shares insights into mindfulness and meditation for inner peace and harmony.
  • Mindful.org: A website dedicated to mindfulness, offering articles, guided meditations, and resources to integrate mindfulness into various aspects of life.
  • UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center (MARC): Provides free mindfulness meditations and resources, including courses and podcasts, developed by leading experts in the field.
  • Berkeley Greater Good Science Center: Offers science-based articles and practices related to mindfulness, well-being, and compassion.

The Problems of Mindfulness

Philosopher Sahanika Ratnayake argues that by narrowing our attention to the present through practicing mindfulness, we may unintentionally detach ourselves from the broader narrative of our thoughts, feelings, and experiences. This narrow focus can hinder our ability to comprehend the underlying causes and patterns of our thoughts and emotions. Consequently, it may impede our capacity to construct a comprehensive and meaningful story about ourselves and our lives. 

Further problems associated with mindfulness include:

  1. Mindless Escapism: While mindfulness encourages being present, excessive emphasis on it might tempt individuals to avoid confronting real-life issues and responsibilities by constantly seeking solace in the present moment.
  2. Avoidance of Deep-Seated Problems: Relying solely on mindfulness might mask deeper psychological or emotional issues that require attention and professional support.
  3. Overlooking Critical Thinking: Mindfulness can encourage acceptance and non-judgment, which are valuable qualities. However, relying solely on acceptance might prevent individuals from critically evaluating situations and making necessary changes or improvements in their lives.

The Alternative: Mind-Wandering

It is not difficult to see why mindfulness is embraced as a preferable state over uncontrolled mind-wandering. 

Mind-wandering, on the other hand, offers a contrasting perspective to mindfulness, as it allows individuals to explore their thoughts and inner worlds without feeling estranged. Mind-wandering refers to the phenomenon where a person’s attention shifts away from their current task or the external environment.

Mind-Wandering

In simple terms, it is a state of daydreaming or being lost in thought about the wildest fantasies, ruminating about your sentimental past, or worrying about the future (which happens very often in online meetings). This mental state does not have a focus, and can be spontaneous and involuntary, occurring without deliberate intention.

However, mind-wandering has garnered a bad reputation, often times being associated with reduced productivity, impaired attention, and decreased performance on tasks that require sustained focus. Rarely we hear people talk about the benefits of mind-wandering.

Mind wandering can restore our psychological balance by producing dream material that re-establishes, in a subtle way, the total psychic equilibrium.

Carl Jung, Man and His Symbols

Benefits of Mind-Wandering

However, contrary to popular opinions, mind-wandering can actually be beneficial. 

Mindfulness and Mind-Wandering

Mind-wandering can lead to: 

  • Enhanced Creativity: Mind-wandering allows the mind to explore various thoughts and ideas freely. This not only grant a sense of freedom and liberation to the mind, it also foster creative thinking.
  • Improved Self-Reflection: Mind-wandering provides an opportunity for introspection and self-reflection on our innermost desires and values, fostering a connection with our authentic selves.
  • Future-oriented Thinking: When the mind wanders, individuals often engage in future-oriented thoughts and goal setting, allowing us to envision our aspirations and plan steps to achieve them.
  • Psychological Rest: Mind-wandering can offer a break from demanding tasks or stressful situations, providing a form of mental relaxation, contributing to improved overall well-being.

Researchers have also emphasized that letting the mind wander is healthy and isn’t unguided thinking necessarily. According to Carl Jung, in his book Man and His Symbols, mind wandering can “restore our psychological balance by producing dream material that re-establishes, in a subtle way, the total psychic equilibrium.”

This is because such wandering encourages us to explore the mind without fearing that we may be pacified by our own minds, achieving greater control. In short, by embracing mind-wandering, we can navigate the intricacies of our minds while still maintaining a sense of familiarity and belonging.


Mindfulness or Mind-Wandering?

MindfulnessMind-Wandering
Focus on the present momentFuture-oriented
Cultivates creative exploration and processing of complex emotionsCultivates presence, focus, and emotional regulation

The notion of a strict dichotomy between mind-wandering and mindfulness overlooks the inherent value of both. While it is true that mindfulness is the more popular way of self-introspection and reflection, mindfulness alone may not be able to help us achieve optimal wellbeing in our lives.

Hence, it is only through embracing both perspectives that allows us to navigate the spectrum of human experience. It is through the harmonious interplay of mind-wandering and mindfulness that we can lead a rich and fulfilling life.


Final Thoughts

So, take the time to deliberately focus and meditate on your thoughts. And if you find yourself wandering off course, don’t immediately beat yourself up!

Besides, what may be important, when considering our psychological well-being,

It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.

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Wisdom of Philosophy and Mental Wellbeing: How Wisdom Wards Off Mental Pests

Introduction

“An idea.” “Resilient, highly contagious. Once an idea has taken hold of the brain, it’s almost impossible to eradicate. An idea that is fully formed. Fully understood, that sticks. Right in there somewhere.”

The Inception

In the opening scene of the movie “Inception”, Mr. Cobb describes the parasitic nature of ideas, emphasizing their resilience and ability to manipulate the mind. Insidious ideas, akin to Trojan horses, possess the power to exert control and lead individuals astray. Through the world of psychological espionage depicted in the film, we witness the importance of recognizing and defending against insidious and illusive ideas through observations and discernment. 

Similarly, our mental health may be severely affected by unhealthy and anxiety-inducing thoughts that arise in the mind which can push us deeper into the abyss when not properly dealt with. 

In this article, we will explore the practical applications of wisdom of philosophy to fortify the mind, and guard it against parasitic infestation. 

Disclaimer

It must be strictly emphasized that this should not be considered as a substitute for important mental health aid and the care of medical professionals when necessary. However, the wisdom of philosophy can nevertheless guide us in our everyday lives in allowing us to develop an enhanced awareness of our mental processes to help us achieve greater mental wellbeing. 

What Is Wisdom?

Wisdom can be defined as the quality of having deep understanding, insight, and good judgment, through critical thinking, reflection and the pursuit of truth. The wisdom of philosophy teaches us to deconstruct the chain of such ideas and thoughts, equips us with the knowledge necessary to detect internal inconsistencies and flaws, and brings us to question assumptions—breaking them down to their fundamental constituents. Through this, one is able to rely on reasoning and virtue to discern thoughts that are wholesome or unwholesome, desirable or undesirable and experience greater mental clarity during times of uncertainty, ambiguity, anxiety and stress.

The wisdom of various schools of philosophy play a vital role in the journey of self-development and mental wellbeing, guiding individuals towards a deeper understanding of themselves and the world around them, as well as attaining personal growth and enlightenment.

Applications of Wisdom of Philosophy for Mental Wellbeing

1. Wisdom of Buddhist Philosophy

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In Buddhist philosophy, meditation is an essential practice in achieving greater insight and mental clarity—bringing one closer to a state of “Yoniso manasikāra” or “wise attention.” As Dr. Abi Ubeysekara put it, “Yoniso manasikāra” refers to directing attention to the essence of a matter to understand its true nature. It involves actively pursuing the “right view” by evaluating thoughts objectively, distancing oneself from emotions, and discerning their fundamental nature—whether wholesome or unwholesome. This process of deconstruction guides us in relying more on the exercise of reason and introspection as it strips thoughts and ideas of their intimidating and obstructing appearance, allowing us to see them as they really are.

According to Yuttadhammo Bhikkhu, renowned Buddhist monk, in a Youtube video titled “Monk Radio: How Meditation Works”, meditation and introspection in Buddhism help cultivate wisdom and mental wellbeing by replacing impulsive reactions with mindful awareness. By noting and acknowledging each passing thought without judgment, individuals can distill distracting mental activities, gain control over their minds, and avoid hasty conclusions. This process of “noting”—that is the process of replacing the mind’s mental chatter, commentary and instinctual analysis with a more analytical attitude that objectively and non-judgmentally acknowledges each thought passing by—brings objectivity and clarity, allowing individuals to navigate their thoughts and beliefs more consciously.

Takeaway

Emulate the practice of reinforcing objectivity in daily life. Cultivate a level-minded approach and observe your emotions and actions and be mindful of parasitical influences and not be immediately moved to extirpate and eliminate them, but take the time to first understand them and seek after an appropriate resolution.

2. Wisdom of Christian Philosophy

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Thomas Aquinas, an important historical figure venerated by the Catholic Church as a saint, was a prominent Christian philosopher in the medieval Christian period. In his work “Summa Theologiae,” he highlights the importance of wisdom in leading a good life. Aquinas argues that to perform good deeds, one must choose them with reason and virtuous intention, rather than acting on impulse or passion. He emphasises the need for prudence, an intellectual virtue that aligns reason with actions directed towards the proper end. Prudence, according to Aquinas, is essential for a virtuous and fulfilling life.

Aquinas underscores the significance of wisdom in making sound decisions and cultivating virtue. By reflecting on our actions and practicing discernment, we can develop the discipline to consistently pursue wisdom. This practice of exposure trains the mind to recognize what is wise and enhances our reasoning abilities, enabling us to make informed decisions and resist harmful impulses.

Aquinas’ idea of synthesizing reason and virtuous intention so as to lead a more prosperous life demonstrates that wisdom, in this regard, is significant as it better fortifies the mind from impropriety and poor judgement.

This commitment to self-improvement through wisdom allows us to avoid poor decision-making and be clouded by the machinations of the mind or the negative influences of the external world around us, as well as have the clarity necessary in discerning between the good and the bad.

Takeaway

Constantly review the motivated rationale that underlies your desires and be more cognizant of the times when we deviate from rational ways and what prompts us to do so.

3. Wisdom of Islamic Philosophy

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In the Islamic world, Al-Ghazali stands out among ancient Islamic philosophers for his significant contributions. In his book “The Revival of the Religious Sciences,” he emphasizes the importance of vigilance in one’s life.

Al-Ghazali urges individuals to be vigilant in their actions, thoughts, and choices, likening this vigilance to the careful scrutiny of measures and weights in mundane matters. By guarding against the deceit and cunning of the soul, one can avoid falling prey to harmful thoughts and behaviors.

Al-Ghazali emphasizes the importance of raising one’s guard so as to maintain a ready awareness as to when our thoughts run amok, that we are always ready to scrutinize our actions. This conditioning of the mind and body prepares us for the tendencies of the mind to beguile us, ensuring that we avoid falling prey to predatory thoughts. Conditioning ourselves so as to garner an understanding of the patterns of negative thought processes by actively recording them liberates us from self-deception and allows us to have a wider archive of our behavioural patterns; of the various ways in which our mind is susceptible to undesirable thoughts. 

Takeaway

Keep a record or journal of your thoughts and establish a practice in which you can pay attention to the series of thoughts you experience. Closely examine possible linkages between them and identify the progressive formation of detrimental ideas or thoughts before they take hold of the mind and coagulate in our subconscious–inadvertently directing our actions.

4. Wisdom of Greek Philosophy

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In Greek philosophy, there are many examples of the indispensability of wisdom. Aristotle, in his book the “Nicomachean Ethics”, describes the utility of friendship in discerning such wisdom in one’s life so as to achieve a greater avoidance from error. 

An important lesson of wisdom from  Greek philosophical thought is that we ought to take refuge in friendship when we are experiencing weathering mental turbulence. They are able to offer us third-party, neutral perspectives–affording us greater objectivity.

There may be times that dangerous thoughts that afflict the mind are best dealt with through the guidance of a loving friend who can aid us to see through the misty fog these ideas cause us to be ensnared with.  They can provide us with emotional stability and support when we are under considerable duress which is crucial in dealing with psychological disturbances. The wisdom that valuable friendship can afford us is indispensable to growth and self-development. 

Takeaway

Reach out to our loved ones and share our uncertainties ensures that we distance ourselves from our thought processes momentarily in order to carry out much needed reflections and establish a greater independence from the instincts of the mind in order to analyze its thought-processes from a more broadened perspective, breaking the cycle of negative thoughts that entrap us.

5. Wisdom of Hindu Philosophy

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The Bhagavad Gita, an ancient Hindu text, similarly highlights the significance of virtue in living a good and mindful life. 

Hindu philosophy teaches us to develop a heightened awareness of our inner thoughts, as well as patience, steady detachment and unwavering dedication. By cultivating wisdom with perseverance, we can make progress, mitigate the impact of dangerous thoughts, insulating the mind from parasites that seep deep into the subconscious mind, and achieve a state of mental awareness and wellbeing.

Similarly, in Jungian psychology, the concept of the “shadow” is understood to be an active force hidden in our subconscious, having the capacity to direct our behaviours. The shadow is a psychological complex comprising our suppressed emotions, bitter resentments and toxifying thoughts; the darkest aspects of human nature. If left unaddressed, the shadow–from the darkest recesses of the mind–can bleed into our conscious state and influence us dramatically; potentially altering our entire state of being for the worse. What Jung advocated as a solution to confront the influences of the shadow was awareness; by maintaining a heightened state of understanding of the forces that operate in our mind. By directly confronting dangerous ideas and developing acute awareness, we drain them of their influence and gain greater control over our minds.

Takeaway

Cultivate vigor, patience and seek refuge in the attitude of detachment. As one cultivates the virtues of wisdom, the greatest wisdom of all is in recognizing that anything we set our hearts on demands patience and steady day-by-day progress as this is important in maintaining perseverance during especially turbulent times. The virtue that is needed when one sets one’s heart on a desired destiny is patience. Through this, we can achieve authentic progress and bring ourselves closer to the ideal state of mental awareness; allowing us to mitigate the impact of dangerous thoughts and ideas.

Wisdom is Liberation

The practice of wisdom is an opportunity for psychological reorientation when we are led astray by dangerous thoughts; redirecting us to a space of objectivity when we are pushed into the tight spaces that these thoughts push us in; suffocating us.  

Wisdom therefore is liberation; a path to independence from the parasitical colonizers that conspire to impose their reign on our mental thought processes which empowers us and gives us the strength necessary to reinstate our psychological sovereignty. 

In an age where dangerous ideas have the capacity to inspire radical extremism, mental anguish and great suffering, we ought to make wisdom our refuge; shielding us from the wrath of psychological parasites that vie to encroach upon the mind. Through wisdom, the psychology of parasitism can be remedied and mental wellbeing can be achieved.

“Wisdom is an instrument, which protects a person from destruction; it is also an inner fortress, which could not be destroyed even by an enemy.”

Thirukkural (421)